From the category archives:

Nurturing

A Powerful Method to Help Challenging Children Process Feelings

June 15, 2010

In the previous blog post I discussed the five question approach to helping your Challenging Child to process feelings after acting out. Now I want to introduce a very powerful method for the processing of feelings in general. When processing feelings, never lecture. NEVER. If you lecture, you raise the risk that your child will [...]

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Five Important Questions to Help Your Challenging Child Process Feelings

June 14, 2010

When your Challenging Child has had some kind of outburst, it is important to take time together to process the feelings and reconnect. To do that, it is a good idea to sit together on a sofa or big enough easy chair where you can be close. It is ideal to bring your child onto [...]

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Whining and Your RAD Child — A Loving Solution!

March 22, 2010

Chances are that if your child has Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) whining is commonplace. It can drive a parent up a wall. Here is a perhaps exaggerated scenario. “Mom, I want that _________ (fill in the blank!)” “No, not now.” In a more plaintive tone, “Mom, I really want it.” “I said no.” In an [...]

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Dealing with Your Interrupting RAD Child

March 11, 2010

My RAD child has recently has enjoyed asking me interrupting knock knock jokes. I am sure you know them: “Knock, knock.” “Who’s there?” “Interrupting cow.” “Interrupting cow  . . .  “Moo, moo, moo.” RAD children love to interrupt adults in conversation. They annoy the heck out of us when they do and we tell them [...]

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Assumptions

February 19, 2010

Kids with Reactive Attachment Disorder can be incredibly mischievous, to put it mildly. Classicly, kids with RAD are sneaky, they steal, they lye, and so on. The list of unpleasant and unacceptable behaviors is long. It is very easy to assume that if something is missing, broken or out of order that our RADish is [...]

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*PIZZAZZ* for RAD Kids

February 16, 2010

*Pizzazz*. I love *pizzazz*. RAD kids make many mistakes – they misbehave, steal, lie, and so on. They seemingly do anything they can to earn consequences. (Please avoid punishment; they had more than enough of that before they came to you.) When they do something correctly and the way we want it, when they do [...]

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